Considering the Risks and Rewards of Vulnerability When Starting Therapy
Ryen Gallagher MSW Pre-Licensed Therapist • July 9, 2024
Starting therapy can be scary. In part this is because it is the process of exposing hurt, shame, fears, and deeply personal experiences. It is showing ourselves as vulnerable
Parts of you may think that it’s more safe to keep it all within and bury it deep. This is because there is risk in vulnerability. Vulnerability opens us up to feel more, therefore it can come with discomfort and hurt. It’s leaning in to what you may have spent a long time trying to avoid.
So here, I offer an invitation to consider the benefits of vulnerability. The rewards of vulnerability within our lives are vast. Through the process of becoming more vulnerable we can foster improved social connections, create better relationships with family members, develop deeper romantic connections and feel increased empathy. Additionally it can lead to experiencing all emotions with more intensity. As Brene Brown states, “numb the dark and you numb the light”. Through vulnerability we can become more in touch with our authentic and confident selves.
In closing, I invite you to consider if the challenge of becoming more vulnerable is worth the reward that may come with it. If so, know that there is a therapist out there ready to help you with the proces
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Many clients and prospective clients solely focus on coping skills in their treatment. Coping skills are valuable tools in recovery and symptom management but there are additional actions you can take to build resiliency and improve your situation. Focusing on what needs to be done or changed all the time can lead to burnout or feelings of inadequacy. Improving symptoms and overall mental health does not have to be hard work all the time! It can be helpful for clients to balance the hard work and effort they are doing with “lighter” actions/activities. What can having fun look like? Having fun has a different meaning for everyone, think of activities or hobbies that you enjoy. Are you a sports fanatic? A crocheter? A reader? Maybe you like to watch reality television? Clients often do not consider how the things they do for enjoyment or just to pass the time can help process their mood, feelings, or symptoms. A clinician can see these same activities as their client practicing mindfulness, self care, and/or symptom management! How can relationships improve mental health? Anyone can benefit from having natural supports, meaning any person in your life who does not have a professional relationship with you. Natural supports can look like friends, family, fellow members of your church, recreational sports team, book club, etc. Any of these people you have a positive relationship with can be a natural support! Natural supports can help provide emotional and mental support when you are dealing with a stubbed toe, a major crisis, or anything in between. Why is this important for your mental health? Balancing the work and effort you are making every day with time spent doing enjoyable and/or relaxing activities helps build your resiliency. Resiliency is the capacity to withstand or recover from difficulties. Resiliency is crucial with managing mental health symptoms because it will help carry you through every day stressors and can help make major stressors easier to deal with. Alix Reilley LCMHC Candidate Source: NAVIGATE Individual Resiliency Training Manual 2014
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Coping skills are often associated with breathing techniques, meditation, and grounding techniques as stand alone skills. However, many people don’t realize they can integrate these skills into their hobbies, such as crafting. Many people struggle with certain aspects of coping skills that require them to focus and remain still, or may need replacement behaviors for harmful or maladaptive coping skills. But how can we combine hobbies and coping skills? Mindfulness Mindfulness means paying attention to the present moment, without judging or trying to change it. This involves observing your thoughts, feelings, and sensations without getting caught up in them. Sounds difficult right? It can be, but this blog is going to help you find ways you already practice mindfulness or help you develop a way to do so. Spending too much time planning, problem-solving, daydreaming, or thinking negative or random thoughts can be draining. It can also make you more likely to experience stress, anxiety and symptoms of depression. Practicing mindfulness exercises can help you direct your attention away from this kind of thinking and engage with the world around you. Mindfulness and Crafting While meditation, yoga, and walking are common mindful activities, crafting is a fun alternative. Crafting may help reduce stress in people, as well as develop creative confidence, skills, and aid in stress around perfectionism.. Not only is crafting fun, but playing with shapes, colors, and textures is stimulating and emotionally rewarding, as seen in the benefits of art therapy. Some great crafts to complete mindfully are: Crocheting/Knitting: crochet and knitting are wonderful mindfulness practices as the process can be meditative and repetitive for ease of focus, but crafters can also mindfully focus on the minor aspects of each step to note the beautiful creation that arises. Painting: By focusing on the present moment, mindful painting can help quiet the mind, reduce anxiety, and foster a deeper connection with oneself. Coloring: coloring requires sustained attention and concentration that create beautiful outcomes; patterns can be detailed and intricate or simple and enjoyable, perfect for anyone to try. Many more!
Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) is a form of therapy that was created to treat depression, specifically treatment-resistant depression. Developed by Zindel Segal, John Teasdale, and Mark Williams, MBCT combines elements of cognitive therapy with mindfulness meditation. Research has shown that MBCT creates structural changes within brain areas that are associated with depression (Brewer et al., 2011). This means that MBCT reforms the brain, something that antidepressant medications have not been shown to do. This blog post will introduce the main ideas behind MBCT and briefly review the research backing this effective treatment option.
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